Lessons learned after a heartbreak

Relationships
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It may seem the end of your world but this too shall pass.

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Some older people give advice not necessarily because they think they know better but…

They did STUPID things that you’re just thinking of doing right now. They just don’t wanna admit directly that they did that stupid thing.

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Wag magpautang kasi mahirap maningil pag nagbreak na LOL

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As it turned out, every heartbreak is a test of character. It’s an opportunity to know oneself better.

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Andami masyado but ok, to share a few:

  1. Never get into “rescue mission” relationships. Don’t mistake your generosity, eagerness to help, compassion etc with love.
  2. “Love until it hurts” is stupid. If it hurts, stop doing it.
  3. You first. Always.
  4. After the break-up, if niloko ka or ginago ka or ginamit ka, fine feel bad, cry… But don’t nurture that “poor me” victim complex. You are not a victim!
  5. Respect yourself. Fool me once etc etc.
  6. Don’t settle for someone waaaaay less than your ideal. Deal breakers are deal breakers. Next!
  7. There really is a lot of other fish in the sea! Stop chasing and forcing the issue on this one!
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Malalaman mo na ang tunay pala ay yung wala ka iniisip na worries or insecurities. Hinde ka nagtatanong palagi na what if or bakit ganun? Yung tunay ay hinde ka pinapaiyak. Sabi nga. At peace ka

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Totoo yung magigising ka nalang isang araw tapos OK ka na. :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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And may love pala na effortless? Simple lang.

I thought I had to endure, get hurt, prove that I am the one, wait for him to choose me, that there should be wild complications before I can finally say that this is great love. :smash:

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Di mo na kailangan isipin kapag wala ka pala talaga pakialam.

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Microcheating is cheating

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Pag hindi na kayo nagsesex at hindi nyo pinag-uusapan bakit, may problema na. Tigilan nyo na.

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Huhu very true huwag na huwag papayag na under sa name mo ang loan ni jowa :embarasslaff:

Saka
I don’t have to set myself on fire to keep others warm.

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Lahat tayo nagkakamali. Minsan, mali lang talaga ang minahal mong tae, I mean, tao. :joy: Forgive yourself.

Hindi ko talaga keri kung polyamorous ang SO ko. I learned this the hard way.

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naka relate ako dito!

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There is no other way of loving than giving it everything you’ve got. A few years back while attending a mass habang heartbroken ako, the homily centered around this quote from Pope Benedict “Only the lover can understand the folly of a love to which prodigality is the law and excess alone is sufficient”. Damang-dama ko siya that time. So I learned to be kinder to myself and forgive myself for loving too much.

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Pag sinabi niyang hindi pa siya ready sa isang relationship, hindi pa siya ready. Listen very well. Hindi yun go signal na gawin mo ang lahat para magbago ang isip niya. Don’t project your fantasies to someone who is not ready because you will end up hurt for sure. You know what they say, expectation is the root of all heartaches.

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Sobrang totoo nito!!! Itigal ang complex/fantasy na ikaw ang magiging gamechanger!!! (Haha ang daming exclamation points kasi ganyan ako dati, but #lessonlearned haha)

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Same! Grabe todo effort pa ako nun pero ang ending waley, luhaan ang ateng! Ako lang ang umasa sa wala… pero ngayon, not anymore. Alam ko na ang tamang galawan haha

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Sometimes, you will just never ever be enough for someone. Not because of a defect in you per se but because you are just not what that person is looking for. Sometimes, it’s really not you – and that’s okay. Don’t let it affect your self-esteem or sense of worth, darling. #notestomyyoungerself

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Pag tapos na tapos na. Don’t try to beat a dead horse.

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