Dating dealbreakers

What are your dating red flags and turn offs?

When I was younger I would overlook the red flags because of petty reasons like looks :expressionless: but now that I know better, I understand who I am attracted to even more.

Red flag sakin yung hindi maayos ang pagtreat sa mga waiter, guards, helpers, and anyone in the service sector. It says a lot about the person’s concept of respect and upbringing.

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Ngayon, DDS. No way.

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Ganyan din ako nauuna ang looks :twak:

Pero eto (sana) natutunan ko from experience:

  1. Hindi maayos sa finances, e.g. spending more than their means at madami utang sa credit card, walang ipon.

  2. Bastos sa magulang. Okay lang yung sumasagot sa magulang pag may argument pero iba yung bastos na at walang galang.

  3. Walang kaibigan. Una, ibig sabihin nyan may kakaiba sa ugali nya. Pangalawa, iikot lang mundo nya sayo which is not healthy.

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Yeah. Same here. DDS and Marcos supporters. They’re cancelledt! And mejo vocal ako sa kanila at nasasabihan ko talaga ng “Yuck kadiri ka!” Sorry, hindi ko lang macontain. Haha

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  • blind supporters. kahit sino pa sinusuportahan nila.
  • someone who has no dreams for the future. ok lang sa akin kahit hindi naka-graduate basta may ginagawa para mapabuti ang kalagayan nya.
  • someone who is intolerant of my religious beliefs at yung ipapa-convert ako sa kung ano ang paniniwala nya. i’m not gonna do that to him so i wouldn’t want him to do that to me.
  • someone who is sexist and racist. and someone who is disrespectful to anyone.
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dealbreaker saken yung married Kahit hiwalay na. Paki asikaso muna ng annulment please. Lol

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  • DDS and Marcos apologist.
  • Someone who has no goals / ambitions in life. I don’t need someone successful, but I want someone with direction.
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Self-absorbed and extremely narcissistic. Tipong puro siya nalang dapat lagi ang tama, masusunod, walang paki sa feelings ng iba.

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Pag mag kwento, puro about him… “teka, hinde mo ba itatanong yung sakin?”

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red flags: mataray and bossy

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Rude to guards, janitor, nurses, waiters
Air heads - pretty on the outside but cannot handle a simple conversation
Smoker

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DDS, Marcos loyalists, tsaka yung masama trato sa mga animals at sa mga taong feeling nya ay ‘superior’ sya.

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Dati, pag tawag niya ay “pennies”, but as I get older, nag-iiba pala ang dealbreaker.

So, at midlife, off the top dealbreakers:

  • Bad Habits English. Yung palaging gumagamit ng “such”, “same”, at kung anu-ano pa. If you can’t use English proficiently, okay lang. Wag nang pilitin, kthnxbye.
  • Repressed. Yung hindi pa alam yung kanyang sexuality and/or using some weird religious tenet to suppress. “Hindi ako ganyang klaseng babae.” Mahirap na nga na may Madonna/Whore ang patriarchy, tinutulungan mo pa. Gumagamit ka ng term na liberated??? Thank you, next.
  • DDS/Marcos Apologist. Self-explanatory. At the very least may path ka to your political view and your civic responsibility, hindi yung sa sobrang parrot mo pwede kang exhibit sa Avilon.
  • Hindi marunong kumain. Pag need pa i-explain kung bakit masarap ang gulay, ewan ko na lang. Tsaka yung nagpupumilit na tostado yung steak (hindi lang well done). Marunong akong magluto. At the very least dapat marunong kang kumain, para match.

Heartbreak is the best teacher. Deal-breakers from heartbreak:

  • Galit sa anak ko. May anak ako. Kahit ano man ang faults niya, mahal ko yan. Deal with it. And yes, I think you’re that evil na pinapatulan mo ang bata. Favor, wag kang magka-anak, matratrauma lang yun sa yo.
  • Ginagawa akong ATM. I give what I can, and if I can’t give any more, sorry. Things that are given are not yours as a matter of right.
  • Toxic na tao. Unfortunately, it’s hard to see this, and minsan lumalabas lang to pag nasa gitna ka na, pero tangina Kiko, matuto ka na, please. Pag niyuyurak na niya yung pagkatao mo kasi college dropout siya, hindi mo na kasalanan yan.
  • User-friendly. Yung kaya ka lang kinausap ulit after leaving you is because nangangailangan siya ng work. Sorry, ha. Bakit kita pagbubuhusan ng effort ulit? Buti sana kung hindi…
  • Nabuntis ka sa ibang tao. I have a high tolerance for pain, pero tangina, eto yung dapat natuto na ako. Wag ka nang umasa sa akin ng kahit ano, tanginamo ka pakshet ka sa earth.
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DDS (nalaman kong tatlo dun sa mga dinate ko dati ay dedees, ay caramba!!!)

Someone who doesn’t pay attention - yung paulit ulit na

Mabaho - sareh na :hihi:

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Hindi ko naprocess agad ang title. First thought was

Oh, this is a thread about things na deal breakers dati pero puwede na ngayon

:rofl:

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Hindi kumakain ng gulay.

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More like late bloomer :joy: (late na din natutong kumain ng gulay so fair I guess :rofl:)

Yung di marunong ng manual labour :joy:

And of course, DDS. :roll_eyes:

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Kung lalaki. :woman_shrugging:

Walang galang sa kapwa. Racist. Sexist. At higit sa lahat, ‘yung hindi ginagamit ang utak o kaya hindi nag-iisip. :no_good_woman:

Someone who has no compassion, selfish, childish/immature
Someone who smokes and has bad breath (or has body odor) :pukeface:

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