When I was younger I would overlook the red flags because of petty reasons like looks but now that I know better, I understand who I am attracted to even more.
Red flag sakin yung hindi maayos ang pagtreat sa mga waiter, guards, helpers, and anyone in the service sector. It says a lot about the personās concept of respect and upbringing.
Yeah. Same here. DDS and Marcos supporters. Theyāre cancelledt! And mejo vocal ako sa kanila at nasasabihan ko talaga ng āYuck kadiri ka!ā Sorry, hindi ko lang macontain. Haha
blind supporters. kahit sino pa sinusuportahan nila.
someone who has no dreams for the future. ok lang sa akin kahit hindi naka-graduate basta may ginagawa para mapabuti ang kalagayan nya.
someone who is intolerant of my religious beliefs at yung ipapa-convert ako sa kung ano ang paniniwala nya. iām not gonna do that to him so i wouldnāt want him to do that to me.
someone who is sexist and racist. and someone who is disrespectful to anyone.
Dati, pag tawag niya ay āpenniesā, but as I get older, nag-iiba pala ang dealbreaker.
So, at midlife, off the top dealbreakers:
Bad Habits English. Yung palaging gumagamit ng āsuchā, āsameā, at kung anu-ano pa. If you canāt use English proficiently, okay lang. Wag nang pilitin, kthnxbye.
Repressed. Yung hindi pa alam yung kanyang sexuality and/or using some weird religious tenet to suppress. āHindi ako ganyang klaseng babae.ā Mahirap na nga na may Madonna/Whore ang patriarchy, tinutulungan mo pa. Gumagamit ka ng term na liberated??? Thank you, next.
DDS/Marcos Apologist. Self-explanatory. At the very least may path ka to your political view and your civic responsibility, hindi yung sa sobrang parrot mo pwede kang exhibit sa Avilon.
Hindi marunong kumain. Pag need pa i-explain kung bakit masarap ang gulay, ewan ko na lang. Tsaka yung nagpupumilit na tostado yung steak (hindi lang well done). Marunong akong magluto. At the very least dapat marunong kang kumain, para match.
Heartbreak is the best teacher. Deal-breakers from heartbreak:
Galit sa anak ko. May anak ako. Kahit ano man ang faults niya, mahal ko yan. Deal with it. And yes, I think youāre that evil na pinapatulan mo ang bata. Favor, wag kang magka-anak, matratrauma lang yun sa yo.
Ginagawa akong ATM. I give what I can, and if I canāt give any more, sorry. Things that are given are not yours as a matter of right.
Toxic na tao. Unfortunately, itās hard to see this, and minsan lumalabas lang to pag nasa gitna ka na, pero tangina Kiko, matuto ka na, please. Pag niyuyurak na niya yung pagkatao mo kasi college dropout siya, hindi mo na kasalanan yan.
User-friendly. Yung kaya ka lang kinausap ulit after leaving you is because nangangailangan siya ng work. Sorry, ha. Bakit kita pagbubuhusan ng effort ulit? Buti sana kung hindiā¦
Nabuntis ka sa ibang tao. I have a high tolerance for pain, pero tangina, eto yung dapat natuto na ako. Wag ka nang umasa sa akin ng kahit ano, tanginamo ka pakshet ka sa earth.