Re: 1st Post by FluffymallowS Sunday, March 19, 2006 @ 02:09:14 PM I must say "good for you" because you chose to wait instead of finding the love you always wanted and get hurt in the process. Not to mention once your MR. RIGHT came along, it's worth the wait. Besides, there's no harm in being happy ALONE. I've always thought that I can never survive without a guy on my side but believe me, there are times that it feels good to go out with friends without your "significant other" tagging along. It's much more exciting, not tiring, to shop-till-your-money-drop when you're alone. It's more relaxing to go to an evening walk without someone that might interrupt your thoughts and self-reflection. All I'm saying is you could always make yourself happy and fulfilled without your special someone. God bless you and may you find your "one great love" soon. Nice article by the way!

Re: wow by Krislan Sunday, March 19, 2006 @ 02:15:01 PM What you said resembles my sentiments exactly! I'm so torn on how I should approach the null state of my lovelife. The proverbial question rings inside my head everyday: Should I be proactive or count on Serendipity? But lets be realistic. What are the chances of you snagging a girl or guy without doing anything? The chances are close to nil... those things happen only in Hollywood movies, not in real life... When you wanna find your everlasting-love or at least have ur mizuage broken, you need to be proactive. Proactive, meaning, you either flirt, throw hints, or if ur 'makapal' , directly say to the person "I like You" But I know, you get rejected. Rejection is such a 'tumultous' path to venture through in order to get laid. It can be very emotionally tiring for your mind and heart. Your article's title sums it all up 'Fate Rubs in'. Fate gives us hope no matter what, even amidst a completely blackhole state of love. And besides, its good for your mind and heart's well-being. I love this article!

Re: right! by agentjet Sunday, March 19, 2006 @ 03:27:26 PM we have the same sentiments.. i just came to realize that fate bring people together. its not in your ands. but it is also good that u clear your mind out of that 'looking-for-someone thing'... all we need to know is that to relax and do your thing... theres a saying, here it goes: the more you chase the butterfly, d more it eludes you but if you just sit by the corner, the butterfly will just sit with you... hay..anyway nice artik! ,")

Re: fate always does that by kahani_18 Sunday, March 19, 2006 @ 06:11:50 PM I had the same dilemma like you. At for me it was hard to wait since I am a NBSB (no boyfriend since birth) =) but I still do believe tatay Lord had someone "packaged" and waiting for me...maybe that's the reason why He made me experience a lot of things so I could be stronger and more prepared when that time comes.. Good article =)

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Re: by bloodberry Sunday, March 19, 2006 @ 09:12:58 PM that's nice.. hehehe.. but still, shouldn't just sit in a corner to wait... as for me, it's still your choice that would make your fate. enjoy life! ur right about saying that life is full of surprises.. but it's the matter of how you repond to the surprises life brings.... do i make sense?? hehehehe!! peace out!

Blame it to Fate by artemis33 Monday, March 20, 2006 @ 09:03:02 AM Blaming fate is one of the simplest and easiest ways to escape. Escape probably from fears, frustrations, hopes, and dreams. It is the option of the people of don't want to take the responsibility and the blame. It is a battle between contigencies and choices, between phenomenology and existentialism. When we haven't found the thing that we're looking for, we blame fate. Fate decides not to let us find whatever that is. Truly, it is an easy escape. I just believe so much in the power of the person to decide. The power of choices. And knowing the consequences and the events that our choices will bring us into. We can claim that we are product of contigencies, and that fate rubs it. But we can also claim that we are product of our own choices. But hey, it doesn't have to be a dichotomy right? Let love be in a continuum. Hehehe. ^_^

• Re: phenomenology by Krislan on Monday, March 20, 2006 @ 05:25:04 PM
  

Re: nice ARTICLE!I like it... by bubblygummy Monday, March 20, 2006 @ 09:14:45 AM who said love was fair?! it never was... Yeah it's true..Love will just find its way to you.. You need not to hurry..:)

Re: by dalaginding Monday, March 20, 2006 @ 10:29:10 AM Maybe it's really fate. There's really less point in going through too many relationships or meeting too many 'prospects' when there isn't an assurance that one of them is Mr./Ms. Forever. I guess it's better to focus on life and love - for oneself, for friends, family, and the needy. Forever would come along. :)

Re: funny how this reminds me of my story by ayen_hime Tuesday, March 21, 2006 @ 11:15:54 AM it's a funny thing how this mirrors my exact sentiments not too long ago. there i was, in the school library, catching a few shut-eyes when my fate walked in to wake me up. i was not looking for love and i figured that i should just wait it out. after all, i was young and was in no hurry. but alas, the one who controls my destiny deemed that it was time for me to change roads. and years later, his plan is working out. patience is a virtue and one that will be your best companion during these toiling days... enjoy the ride!

Re: nice article! by bukopie Tuesday, March 21, 2006 @ 01:59:42 PM it is indeed very rewarding to wait...when God writes ur love story, it will be perfect... =) wait for the one that God has prepared for you..it may take some time but it is worth the wait!! =)

Re: WORTH W8ING. by budjoi Tuesday, March 21, 2006 @ 02:12:02 PM Hey girl! *s woth w8ing namn whom u rili deserve. God will give the man u deserve and He knows wen will be the ryt tym. Sumtyms temptations r jaz around the corner, but 8s up 2. When u olredi set up ur mind, things aren't that hard.... Gud luck...

Re:it will find you, sooner or later ;-) by ishda Tuesday, March 21, 2006 @ 04:05:43 PM when i was "newly-singled" about 2 yrs ago, i wanted to get on the dating bandwagon, have fun, and to eventually meet the one. and i did, joined the dating wagon and had fun, i mean. but no signs of "the one" anywhere. i've dated more than 15 guys in the span of two yrs (all are eligible,papable-naman males)and i would say i didnt find "the one" but nurtured good friendships with them instead. it was a good thing but it made me a cynic. i didnt want to believe that there is still someone out there, so i resigned to live and enjoy the single life. i was ready for solitude life even for my whole lifetime! half a yr ago though, "the one" disguised as "totally-unimaginable-and-not-at-all-considerable" barged into my life unannounced. he was the only one who was able to break through my defenses. and to think he was on the "dont even think about it" list. how unpredicatble can life get? and now we're happy togther, and the rest was history. so what i'm telling you now is that, LOVE does find you. ready or not. they say its always darkest on the eleventh hour, so have more patience. "the one" might just be on the next bend. enjoy the journey!

• Re: fate and logic, not fate vs logic by maam_anne on Thursday, April 13, 2006 @ 01:42:00 PM
  

Re: by cosmic_bebelgum Tuesday, March 21, 2006 @ 11:48:51 PM A very nice artik. Just like the author I have been singled out but twas late last year only. I've been in a couple of long term relationships, and just enjoying life. I'm done playing the field and decided to let fate take the lead. But I do eb's and meet people but I do it not to look for potential SO's. So surprise me.Ü

serendipity by gaialorraine Wednesday, March 22, 2006 @ 03:47:11 AM I for one am a firm believer of fate! things happen when you least expect it. After getting tired of the dating game love came upon me at the time when I did'nt even want it. I was afraid to take the big leap but when I did it was worth all the tears of the past. This is an exerpt from a song I once heard; "and i don't regret the rain, or the times i felt the pain, the tears i had to cry so many times a long the way, any road i had to take, even if my heart would break, it was just a thing that i had to get through, to get me to you!"

Re: by perfect_stranger Wednesday, March 22, 2006 @ 06:20:52 PM i believe that the more you look, the more you can't find. so in my case, i'm half searching and half waiting.

Coehlo chumenelin by artemis33 Wednesday, March 22, 2006 @ 07:47:11 PM LOVE is a trap... When it appears, we only see its light.... not its shadows... But love is always new. Regardless of whether we love once, twice or a dozen times in our lives, we always face a brand-new situation. Love can consign us to hell or to paradise, but it always takes somewhere. We simply have to accept it, because it is what nourishes our existense. If we reject it, we die of hunger, because we lack the courage to stretch out a hand and pluck the fruit from the branches of the tree of life. We have to take love where we find it, even if that means hours, days, weeks of disappointment and sadness. The moment we begin to seek love, love begins to seek us. And to save us. by Paulo Coelho O di ba kahit si Coehlo naniniwala sa actions of the human being sa continuum. Kahit na sabihin mo pa na para kang si Juan Tamad na walang gagawin, kalokohan yun. Dahil alam mo na aayusin mo pa rin naman ang sarili mo, mag-aaral ka pa rin o magtatrabaho, at gagawin pa rin ang mga dapat gawin. Marahil hindi particularly to find or attract the "one" pero pwedeng subconsciously it is your own active way to be ready anyway. (Dapat parang girl scout!) So bring it on. hehehe.

Re: hard to accept... by bossy Thursday, March 23, 2006 @ 05:50:23 AM the concept that love finds you instead of you finding it. parang napaka-helpless isipin...kasi nga it's beyond your control. but i kinda had to believe it since in my case...i didn't know i was looking for love until i found you...and drama ko eh. ok fine...yun na nga...love finds you. so you don't have to go out there to "plot/scheme" your way into someone's heart...but just because you're not looking, it shouldn't mean that you shouldn't go out to bars/clubs, talk to men/women,chat or try/learn new things. in other words, just because there is nothing you can do about finding love...it doesn't mean that your life stops while you're "waiting". 'coz maybe...when you're simply living your life (however you want to live it) that IS when love finds you. in my head, i'm totally making sense. hehe. know what i mean, jellybean? btw, nice artik. love sells talaga dito sa peyups. =)

Re: exactly what i needed to read by SimpLengtaO Thursday, March 23, 2006 @ 02:54:45 PM faith as you may call it... i don't fully understand what's going on with my life right now, i feel so lost... i realized am not really over yet from that relationship i thought would be - forever. mabuhay ka tagapeyups! i love this article and so the posted comments here. guys, you don't know how much you have helped me! am on my way for enlightenment. =) i need to step back a little to be able to see the entirety of the picture.

• Re: me too... by my_niche on Monday, March 27, 2006 @ 10:54:30 AM
  

Re: fate rubs it in by cindz13 Thursday, March 23, 2006 @ 06:50:32 PM a friend sent me a this message awhile back: i don't rush into falling in love, for love never runs out! even if tawanan nila ako coz im single, i just tell them, "God is just busy writing the best love story for me.."

Re: wow by ghlaurthyloen Friday, March 24, 2006 @ 12:06:58 AM nice artik... hehhehe galeng.. binasa ko to nung isang arao... mga tym na feel ko magsenti... tapos nabasa ko nga... naliwanagan naman si ako... i was like.. tama nga naman.. nakarelate kc ako.. tapos kinagabihan... nang mejo matino na utak ko... tumawag ba nmn ung pinagkakasentihan ko... ampft... i guess i need to save this article at comments para lang iremind ako tuwing di ko na alam gagawen lalo na sa lab story ko... hayyyyyyyy buhay nga nmn... sana marame pang articles na ganito... hinde mashado madrama pero nagbibigay liwanag sa utak ... :)

the story of my life by CAgirl Friday, March 24, 2006 @ 09:06:46 AM nice article! i guess a lot of people are going through or have gone through this state of mind. most of the time because of frustration or impatience. i had my first bf when i was 24 and it lasted for 3-1/2 years. after that i dated a few guys but nothing came out of it. i just gave up and trust that the Lord has better plans for me. a year and a half ago (I was turning 32), when i least expected it, i met someone whom i never thought will be the answer to my prayers. after 2 weeks of dating we officially became a couple. and a little over than six months later, we got married=) the wait was definitely worth it=)

Re: nice by substance Monday, March 27, 2006 @ 09:24:14 AM Nice one! And just like you, I'm leaving it up to fate. Good luck to us! :)

Re: Quotable quotes by artsy Monday, March 27, 2006 @ 01:59:03 PM "Destiny is not a matter of chance; it's a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved." - William Jennings Bryan "Destiny - A tyrant's authority for crime and a fool's excuse for failure." - Ambrose Bierce

Re: whew... by chocomelt Wednesday, March 29, 2006 @ 04:48:54 PM i can very much relate... for me, if love is true, it will find its way to you and the other person. i believe that God will write my best love story ever soon... Ü

Re: by rarr Thursday, March 30, 2006 @ 12:09:49 AM i agree a hundred and one percent. Someone will eventually come along that would make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else. =)

Re: coincidence?!! just got out of a relationship, it's very timely that i read your article, it makes me realize why the others who came wasn't quite right for me.A great love story is yet to unfold, soon...

Re: napadaan lang pu.. by woi Saturday, April 01, 2006 @ 11:54:51 PM nice artik! somehow, i agree with what you've written. we should just let fate take its course. but that doesn't mean na wala na tayong gagawin but to wait.. hell no.. it's not like that.. we should know when to make a move.. ironically, even if we don't really intend to fall, we sometimes do.. tao tayo eh,, sadyang makukulet na nilalang.. nevertheless, when love really strikes us, even if we're not sure of what the future holds, aminin natin..we just know...

Re: xactly! by hyoscyamine Sunday, April 02, 2006 @ 10:33:23 PM .thanx 4 posting such a nyz artik..it rily enlightened me.. wel, im 17 yrs.old and I havnt got a bf..i wonder y ppol i lyk luv sumbdy els..and those hu court me r dos that i'v got no interest..hoooh... i'v bin so problematic about the N.b.s.b. thing bt sumhow ds artik has changed my mind..wel ,maybe i jst hav 2 w8 4 d ryt one..its not jst d ryt tym 4 me 2 hav sch relationshp.. im not in a hurry anyway...

hit it by glenskie Tuesday, April 04, 2006 @ 05:49:16 AM this looks like something i wrote or would write. seriously. it insanely does. because everything's been said already. let met just put here a mcbealism i find v. apt: "The truth is, I probably don't want to be too happy or content, 'cause then what? I actually like the quest, the search. That's the fun. The more lost you are, the more you have to look forward to. What do you know? I'm having a great time and I don't even know it. " they all say, 'don't look, wait to be found.' i answer back, if everyone goes around thinking that, then we'd all be in one silly hide-and-seek game where nobody's 'it' because everybody's hiding. my take on it? "Isn’t it way better to be surprised with something so beautiful as finding your one true love without trying too hard.." this is v. beautiful and apt. sometimes, really, it will just surprise you. exactly. don't force the issue. the minute you give up actively searching, you just might be pleasantly surprised. hence another line from that hellisly overplayed yet still v. delectable tune: "Love moves in mysterious, it's always so surprising when love appears over the horizon." i'm guessing you're gay or at least bisexual. haha, sorry. just a guess. :P

Re: mind boggling question po by batgirl95 Tuesday, April 04, 2006 @ 09:57:40 AM okay, i agree that sometimes, we have to let fate take its course but we all know that fate doesn't shout out na: "HE'S THE ONE!" fate sends us little and subtle signs. so here's the question for all of us who have decided to leave it to fate: how do we know what the signs are? the signs are subjective things, they can go either way, depending on how we interpret them. sabi nga sa movie "it's not an exact science." i guess with fate comes a leap of faith huh? nice article by the way.

Carpe diem by quiquay Saturday, April 15, 2006 @ 03:53:20 AM It may be considered hopeless by some but waiting out can be a very (VERY) good option. I was part of the NBSB crowd until the ripe old age of 23. I wasn't bad looking, I had my share of admirers and I actively dated. I had a lot of fun but I didn't find the ONE. Then I got tired of looking at every single guy I knew as a potential boyfriend. I decided I wanted to be happily single. And I was. But I met the One and decided to go ahead and take the plunge. Well, everything's still going on swimmingly for the both of us. =) Waiting like Juan(a) Tamad isn't going to get you your Dream Girl/Prince Charming. When the chance comes along, you have to be smart and brave enough to sieze the opportunity. Yes, be happy even when single but when the one comes along, do your part and snag the guy/gal before he/she/it slips away. Goodluck!

Re: wheel of fate by avic_rn Sunday, April 16, 2006 @ 04:43:30 AM im feeling the same way as you do... wishing and hoping andd praying that the right person will come along. that i really don't have to look for love cause it will find me... but lately im asking a different question... am i really waiting for something that fate is preparing for me or am i just fooling myself hoping because there's really no one to come and my fate is being a blessed single. i still hope not.... hayyy life is really mysterious..we don't really know what will happen to us...and u have nothing else to do but be patient and WAIT...

• Re: agree by whiterain on Wednesday, April 19, 2006 @ 02:19:16 PM
  

Re: the cliche by iskolarnguplb Thursday, April 20, 2006 @ 08:44:42 PM Yeah, leave it all to fate. Diba parang mas exciting at memorable when you find that one great love when you weren't even looking for it in the first place. Have you watched serendipity? In this life, there would only be that one special person for you. You don't need to find him because fate will be the one to bring him to you. Have you read "The Notebook?" Sometimes, we just have to let fate work.. because fate can bring two people meant for each other together and whatever that transpired in the times they were apart won't matter at all because everything will fall into place.. :)

Re: by blitt Friday, May 12, 2006 @ 04:44:43 PM "Waiting is the best opportunity to see the right things happen God's way." "God knows best. Trust Him. He never makes mistakes." Those are two of my mottos in life. They're so true. I just thought I have to share it with you. =)

Re: nyc one by annlively Wednesday, May 17, 2006 @ 05:16:17 PM For NBSB like me, this article inspires..hope springs eternal... for us who patiently waits.. may the right one comes along at the right time... cheers!!!

Re: Haayyy... by hatebellpeppers Thursday, June 01, 2006 @ 08:45:39 PM <b>These people didn’t look for love…it found them.</b><br>Saya! Walang kahirap-hirap. Kusang dumating. Haayy..

Re: by iwantsweets Tuesday, August 01, 2006 @ 08:01:18 PM "Besides, isn’t it way better to be surprised with something so beautiful as finding your one true love without trying too hard or hurting other people than plotting your way through the process? It’s better to be blessed with it than forcing the issue with tears along the way." i soo agree. stay hopeful and wait gracefully. 'while waiting for prince charming, be a princess yourself.' goodluck! ;)

Re: feel the same way by pinakamaganda Wednesday, October 04, 2006 @ 12:21:54 PM i have read an article.. something to the effect of "you dont find love. it finds you." i have never been in a relationship... naiisip ko nga before, mag vow of celibacy nalng kaya ako?? hehe.. but anyhoots... im still hopeful. yes. let God allow him to find you... pero, "happiness is just around"??? why? aren't you happy?? maybe that is why wala pang binibigay c Lord sayo kasi He wants you to be happy with yourself first.. para handa ka sa LOVE na hinahanda nya for you.... BEE HAPPY.. and if you know it, clap your hands.

Re: when it's time.. it's time! by aia_20 Monday, March 24, 2008 @ 04:51:43 PM oh wat can i say... nice artik! nkkrelate tlga aq... funny thing is.. we have d same belief about finding TRUE LOVE.. we dont have to find Love coz Love finds us... Love finds us in God's time.. with its purpose... that will change our entire life... whew!